Clinically reviewed by Claire Ellis, M.S., BCBA, LBA, National Director of Training & Development.
Navigating the holiday season can sometimes feel more stressful than peaceful. Families are busy shopping, going to holiday events, and visiting friends and family members between normal daily obligations like work and school. Throw in other holiday traditions like visiting Santa, holiday train rides, and seeing Christmas lights, and the season is packed with potential triggers for children with autism. Not to mention, the hustle and bustle of the season can throw off a child’s everyday schedule, which many children with autism find comforting.
Top Ways to Support Children with Autism During the Holidays
1. Maintain your child’s schedule as much as possible
If nothing else, aim to keep bedtimes and mealtimes consistent so that when a holiday break is over, getting back into the normal routine is not as daunting. If you need to adjust your child’s schedule to accommodate holiday events, let your child know ahead of time and explain how their routines will be impacted. Consider creating a visual schedule that you and your child can review and look at together throughout the day.
2. Familiarize your child with relatives before a visit
Many people see family and friends only once a year, which can feel very uncomfortable to a child. If possible, reintroduce your child to the individuals they will see at an upcoming event, either through a photo album or a video call. Give your child time and space to process meeting new people, and set expectations with relatives about your child’s preferences, such as their comfort level with hugs or high-fives.
3. Seek out sensory-friendly holiday experiences
Shopping in a crowded mall, among bright lights and holiday music, could be a strong trigger for a child with autism. Look for Sensitive Santa or sensory-friendly events in your city so your child can experience the holiday magic without sensory overload.
4. If you are attending a holiday gathering, call the party host ahead of time
Some children with autism are likely to wander and may need accommodations to feel secure. Ask the host about the environment, such as whether the yard is fenced in or if there’s a quiet space for your child to rest. Planning ahead can help you feel more prepared.
5. Ensure your child’s favorite foods are within reach
Many children have food aversions or sensitivities. Bring familiar foods or plan to eat before attending an event to avoid challenges. If the gathering includes mealtime, find a quiet space for your child to eat comfortably.
6. Prepare to advocate for your child
During the holiday season, friends and family may not be familiar with autism spectrum disorder. Be ready to share information about your child’s needs and set boundaries if others offer unsolicited advice.
7. Create a calm space at home for your child
After a long day, your child may find comfort in a designated “nest” where they can unwind. This can be a room or corner of the house equipped with their favorite toys, blankets, or calming tools.
8. Create new traditions that are safe and enjoyable for everyone
Consider traditions like watching holiday movies at home, walking through quiet neighborhoods to see lights, or decorating cookies together. Choose activities that minimize stress while fostering family connection.
9. Prepare for holiday travel using social stories or pictures
Travel can bring unexpected challenges for children with autism. Explain potential delays, bring comfort items, and use visual aids to familiarize your child with the travel process.
10. Carve out time for yourself
As a caregiver, finding moments to recharge can help you stay present during the holiday season. Even 15 minutes of quiet time each day can make a difference.
11. Practice opening presents
The sensory experience of unwrapping gifts can be overwhelming. Practice beforehand to help your child feel more prepared and comfortable.
12. Be mindful when decorating your home
Involve your child in choosing decorations to create a sensory-friendly environment. Avoid overwhelming lights and sounds, and focus on items they find enjoyable.
13. Explore new holiday experiences together
Talk to your child about holiday activities they may enjoy, such as crafting ornaments or visiting a quiet light display. Consider sensory-friendly events to create a joyful experience.
14. Set aside quiet time to connect
Dedicate daily time to check in with your child and engage in their favorite calming activities, such as reading or watching a movie together.
15. Take your child’s cues and be prepared to decline events
If holiday activities become overwhelming, it’s okay to say no. Prioritize your child’s comfort and well-being over external expectations.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
How can I help my autistic child during the holidays?
Slowly introduce holiday activities into your child’s schedule. Spread out events over several days, and avoid overwhelming them with too many activities at once. Maintaining a routine can also help reduce stress.
How can I take my child traveling for Christmas?
Traveling during the holidays can be challenging without preparation. Use social stories or visual aids to explain the process. Pack familiar comfort items and plan for delays to minimize anxiety.
What are some autism-friendly holiday activities?
Autism-friendly holiday activities could include decorating cookies, crafting ornaments, watching favorite holiday movies, creating sensory-friendly decorations, and visiting quiet light displays. Tailor activities to your child’s preferences to ensure a joyful experience for the whole family.